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A Sex-Filled Marriage

Many non-waiting people report that sex declines in frequency after the honeymoon.

This is so common that it’s become a cliché; a joke that married men perpetuate. They will say things like “Yeah, we had sex all the time back when we were dating, but once you’re married…forget about it.”

If you gathered together all of the world’s stand-up comedians and said to them “no more jokes about married men not getting any sex,” you would leave many with a serious want for material,because half their act was jokes about married men not getting any sex.

So, why does this happen? Why are so many married people sexually unsatisfied? Why does sex slow down or stop after marriage in so many cases? Many couples therapists will say that  married couples (after a while) simply fail to treat sex as important. They take sex for granted.

When you wait until marriage to have sex, you spend your whole young life treating sex asextremely important. During your single years, this view that sex is highly important will strengthen your resolve. It will be the reason why you do not just toss away your virginity (original or re-claimed) lightly at the first opportunity or pressure. Because sex is important to you, you will stay the course until marriage.

Then, when you get married, this view of sex as being important starts to work very much in your favor, because sex stays important. You have years of hard waiting behind you serving as a constant reminder that what you have earned — this loving relationship and the physical intimacy that comes with it — is nothing to be taken for granted, especially not the physical part that you’ve waited so long for.

Plus, sex will be a whole new thing to you! When most people get married, they’ve already been having sex for a decade or more. Sex is old hat by the time they get married.

 They’ve done it all a thousand times over — with several different partners — before they even get to their honeymoon and the lifelong marriage that follows. So keeping things original and exciting in the bedroom can be a challenge at times.

 This is why the magazine racks at your local grocery store are peppered with promises to give you tips on how to “spice up” your sex life by adding new things.

For you, the person who waited till marriage, your kinkiness and “spiciness” tolerance will be laughably low. The act of having sex at all will be plenty “spicy” for you for a long time. You’ve never tried the basics before. You are a long, fun way off from having to reach for that magazine rack.

 Put simply: When you get married, you’ve got a whole lot of awesome sex that you haven’t ever had yet. And now you get to spend the first decade of your marriage catching up, instead of just burning out.

WAITING GIVES A SEX FILLED MARRIAGE

 A Sex-Filled Marriage

Many non-waiting people report that sex declines in frequency after the honeymoon.

This is so common that it’s become a cliché; a joke that married men perpetuate. They will say things like “Yeah, we had sex all the time back when we were dating, but once you’re married…forget about it.”

If you gathered together all of the world’s stand-up comedians and said to them “no more jokes about married men not getting any sex,” you would leave many with a serious want for material,because half their act was jokes about married men not getting any sex.

So, why does this happen? Why are so many married people sexually unsatisfied? Why does sex slow down or stop after marriage in so many cases? Many couples therapists will say that  married couples (after a while) simply fail to treat sex as important. They take sex for granted.

When you wait until marriage to have sex, you spend your whole young life treating sex as extremely important. During your single years, this view that sex is highly important will strengthen your resolve. It will be the reason why you do not just toss away your virginity (original or re-claimed) lightly at the first opportunity or pressure. Because sex is important to you, you will stay the course until marriage.

Then, when you get married, this view of sex as being important starts to work very much in your favor, because sex stays important. You have years of hard waiting behind you serving as a constant reminder that what you have earned — this loving relationship and the physical intimacy that comes with it — is nothing to be taken for granted, especially not the physical part that you’ve waited so long for.

Plus, sex will be a whole new thing to you! When most people get married, they've already been having sex for a decade or more. Sex is old hat by the time they get married. They've done it all a thousand times over — with several different partners — before they even get to their honeymoon and the lifelong marriage that follows. So keeping things original and exciting in the bedroom can be a challenge at times. This is why the magazine racks at your local grocery store are peppered with promises to give you tips on how to “spice up” your sex life by adding new things.

For you, the person who waited till marriage, your kinkiness and “spiciness” tolerance will be laughably low. The act of having sex at all will be plenty “spicy” for you for a long time. You've never tried the basics before. You are a long, fun way off from having to reach for that magazine rack. Put simply: When you get married, you’ve got a whole lot of awesome sex that you haven’t ever had yet. And now you get to spend the first decade of your marriage catching up, instead of just burning out.http://waitingtillmarriage.org/the-top-10-awesome-benefits-of-waiting-until-marriage/

An Incredible Wedding Day and Night

An Incredible Wedding Day and Night

Most people do not wait until marriage to have sex.
However, when those people reach their wedding day, many often suddenly wish that they had waited. You’ll hear guys reporting this of their fiancees several times over your life: “Yeah, she got a little emotional because she suddenly wished we had waited till marriage for sex.”

With some couples, one person (usually the girl) will cut off sex a few months before the wedding, so they can “wait” until the big day and then start having sex again. Again, the guys will gripe about this: “Dude! She’s making me wait now! She says no more sex until the wedding. Ugh.”

If you ask one of these people to explain why they wanted to cut off sex before the wedding (or why they feel pangs of regret about the fact that they didn't wait in the first place) they will give you this answer: “Because I want our wedding day to be special.”

Why wouldn't it be special anyways? You’re committing yourself fully to the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with! That’s a special day under any circumstance, right? Why do you need to cut off sex until the wedding to make it feel “special?” Why doesn't it feel special enough already?

I’ll tell you why it doesn't feel special enough.

Because they've already committed themselves fully to the person they’re marrying. They've been in love, having sex, and (usually) living together for years now.

The wedding day is beautiful, but except legalities, it doesn't change anything. It does not mark the end of one era (as separate people) and beginning of another (as one) as clearly as it’s supposed to. It’s just a fancy solidification of the lifestyle that they’re already living. After the wedding, they don’t go back to a new life — they go back to the exact same life.

And they know that if they wait on sex, even for a small amount of time, it will make the wedding more special because it will make the wedding feel like it marks a change for the better. It will mean the end of their (brief) time physically apart, and the renewal of their time physically together, and send their marriage off to a more romantic and sexier start. It will make the day more significant.

Most couples that cut off sex a few months before the wedding report afterward that they’re glad they did it. Even the guys will begrudgingly admit “Yeah, it was frustrating, but it definitely did make the wedding night and honeymoon a little more special.”

As you can imagine, if stopping sex for a few months leading up to the wedding makes the wedding noticeably more special and meaningful, then waiting your whole life without having sex until the wedding night makes the wedding spectacularly more special and meaningful — totally off-the-charts special ness.

For you, the person who waits, your wedding day and night will be everything every Hallmark card, every romance novel, every poem, every religious text, and every little girl’s fantasy says a wedding should be. All of the symbolism — turning from two lives into one, owning each other in every way, making a commitment with body and soul — will be physically real to you and present throughout your wedding day and night.

Others will reach their wedding day and find themselves thinking “Sigh…I kind of wish we had waited”. You will reach your wedding day and think “I’m so glad we waited!”

Why Most Don't Wait Until Marriage to Have Sex

Living without sex is interesting. Actually, it's great. At the age of 15, I was reading the Bible rigorously and came across a passage that communicated to me that sex before marriage was a sin. I am not sure what that exact passage was, but I am glad that I read it at such a young age because doing so has been the best thing I have ever done for myself.

Living without sex feels pure and wonderful. It is true that at times, it can feel odd. Everyone around you seems to be doing it while you are doing everything else besides that, but many people who are having sex do not realize the benefits of not having sex, which are many. Before a person can realize the benefits, they must realize what keeps them from deciding to not have sex. Fear. These fears are listed below.

Fear of rejection from the opposite sex

This is a hard fear for many people to face expecially when the odds seem to be against them. I say that the odds "seem" to be against them because statistics claim that men think about sex almost twice as much as women do. Therefore, the average woman may believe that she may find herself getting dumped by many men once she tells them that she is waiting to have sex until marriage or she may fear that she is being too eargerly proposed to only so that she can be "had."

This fear can only be overcome with faith. A person waiting for marriage must have faith that there is someone out there who is waiting with the same sincerity as they have. Then, the person waiting must proceed to wait even if they reach the age of twenty one and everyone in college is jumping out of their pants. They must even wait until forty if they have to. If the age of forty is scary, please review the fear listed below, "fear of waiting." A person waiting should wear this phrase like a shield: " I will stand in faith even if it takes my whole life time."

Fear of Waiting

Many people who consider not having sex until marriage fear that they will never get married. Well, how many people do you know who have never been married at least once in their life? Not many people end up never having been married. You probably know one in 10 people over 50 who have never jumped the broom, don't you? For some of you, the percentage is even lower. Therefore, a person has no reason to think that if they wait until they are married, they will become one of those one in ten or one in fifty people who never end up married.

Look at Jessica Simpson. She waited, and she got married. Why not you? Also, when you wait, you have to have a reason for waiting and that reason must be able to rise higher than any fears you have in general. Are you waiting because you believe that you are God's temple? Well ,if you end up alone, so what? You remained God's temple didn't you? You have got to stand for something or fall for anything. Therefore, stand and remain standing. What you are standing up for is more important than whatever sacrifice you have to make. However, if you are not at this level yet, remember that most likely, you will not end up being apart of the the very small percentage of people who can say that they have never been married.

Fear of being an Outcast

The young teenager thinking about saving his or herself for his or her husband may believe that he or she will be labeled as an outcast by peers. Unfortunately, most teens do not know that peers that negatively label other peers because of positive choices they make in their lives are not really friends. Most young people do not know that these types of peers come and go, and when they are old and working, they will barely remember these people and will not be able to fathom why they thought about their opinions so much. Most young people do not know that when they are twenty five and on a blazing career trail, their high school peers who got pregnant too early in life will be a bit jealous of them. Basically, being an outcast is nothing to be afraid of. It only lasts for a short period of time. It could last while you are in middle school or high school, but it is worth it.

Basically, waiting for marriage is a sacrifice. You sacrifice the right now for what you really want. You may want many things that come with waiting to have sex until you get married. You may want a husband or wife who knows that he or she has been the only one who knows the most private things about you. You may want to remain a pure and holy temple before God. You may want to ensure that you do not get pregnant prematurely or by any guy or girl who may or may not end up wanting to be with you forever. You may want all of these things. As you sacrifice, just remember, "Good things come to those who wait."http://voices.yahoo.com/why-most-dont-wait-until-marriage-sex-387575.html

HOW TO ABSTAIN FROM SEX WITH LONG TERM BOYFRIEND

 According to the Teen reporter, In some societies, religions, or simply personal preference, people may choose to abstain from sexual intercourse with their significant other until marriage. If you want to stay sex-free with your boyfriend, take this tutorial.

1. Have a discussion about your reasons for abstinence. Engage your boyfriend in a good give-and-take talk about your ideas concerning the timing for sexual intercourse. Seek his input, but explain where you stand, so there will be no misunderstandings later

2. Be active together. In your free time: hike, bike, swim, walk, exercise, play sports, and so on. Get up and out, working your muscles, to relieve pent-up tensions.

3. Spend time together in public places away from home. Do not study together at home, for instance, but go to the library where you cannot do things in private.

4. Do nonsexual activities. Do things together that are not necessarily sexual, such as giving each other: massages, shampoos, pedicures, and manicures

5. Give your boyfriend positive feedback. Compliment him on his looks, mental prowess, and skills with hobbies or sports, for example. Do no take him for granted. Tell him how much you appreciate him being on the same page as you are as far as sexual intercourse goes.

6. Be loving. You are in a relationship. Even without sexual intercourse, you can show your love for your boyfriend .
7. Meet with other girls. Have group meetings with like-minded girls to reinforce your ideas concerning sexual intercourse, giving each other feedback and a chance to describe strategies.
8. Remind your boyfriend that abstinence is not forever, and there will come a time when you will have sexual intercourse. Talk with him about making plans for that time.

HOW TO ABSTAIN FROM SEX USING THE BIBLICAL SCRIPTURES

How to Abstain from Sex Using Biblical Scriptures 

''No God and keep His word and all with be well with u. Never give up no matter how long it takes , Jesus Keeps His word. Said Sheila AManya  Vision Bearer RASYN-CVM 

Many people act like they will die if they did not have sex. That is such a crazy way of thinking. I have not heard of anyone dying, for not having sex. What many people don't realize when it comes to not having sex, is that it's all in your mind. If you are not constantly thinking about it, it will not be your focus in life. Whatever you spend your time looking at, lusting after, then that will end up being your focus and your downfall. If you are the few individuals, who are waiting to get married before sex, or even what to abstain from sex, here's some biblical scriptures to meditate on.

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My girlfriend wants to abstain from sex

 ''we are not in a relationship because we need sex, we can wait until all is ready for us''. Said Sheila Amanya This story made me so happy

I am a 17 year old guy with a 16 year old girlfriend. As the title says my girlfriend wants to abstain from sex (only have sex when she gets married) and I don’t think, no I know that I will never be able to do that… I have never ever in my life understood why people want to abstain (Not bragging but I am an intelligent person and have looked as to why people abstain and I just don’t agree with them at all…).

We have been dating for 6 months and I have to say that it’s been the best 6 months of my life. I love her, I really do, I kinda believe that I have found my soul mate and I know how much she loves me (don’t know if she thinks that I am her soul mate though…).

When we were dating for about 3 months she told me out of the blue that she didn’t like public displays of affection. I was stunned because we had been kissing (just a peck on the lips) in public for all those 3 months and to find out that this made her uncomfortable I just did not again understand why but I told her that it was fine, no more PDA because I respected her wishes and her believe. Then a while later she told me that she doesn’t want to have sex in High School. This one hit me a lot more than the other one…

I really had to sit and think about this one because let’s be honest this has never been part of my plans. It was a very, very difficult situation this one. I really did think of leaving her… We got into an argument and I learnt that she didn’t actually love me with all her heart because each time she had done that she had gotten her heart shattered and it took her very long to get over it. Now I understood her reasons but the fact that she sad that she didn’t want to get attached to me because she knew that this would end. This didn’t only hurt me, it crushed me, there I was giving a 100% to this relationship only to find out that she had been giving 60%... I really, really thought that this was the end… But then she told me something that she had only told one person in her life, that was her best friend and it had taken her years for her to tell her this, when she was six she was raped. This then made so many things more acceptable, like why she hated public displays of affection and why she didn’t want to have sex in high school. Even though she told me this and I felt extremely sorry for her and what had happened I still wanted to end the relationship… Then she called me and she said that she had been crying for the whole day because she really thought about how life would be without me and she had gotten attached to me, without knowing she let me into her heart and she didn’t want me to leave her… I took her back and overlooked the no sex in high school thing because I mean it was only going to be 2 years and since we are in high school it really didn’t affect me you know.

I also learnt throughout that we were dating that her father was a heavy alcohol abuser and that he cheated on his wife regularly….

Then we hit our 6 month anniversary and she told me how much she loved me and that she has previously believed that it was impossible to not find true love while you were a teen but I was a testament that it was possible. Then 2 days later she hit me with a huge *** slap, “I only want to have sex when I am married”. It kinda didn’t shock me as much actually now that I think about it but now we have been “discussing” this for the whole week now, literally we started this “discussion” on Monday last week.

I told her straight up that I don’t think that I will be able to do this… She gave me her reasons, she said that it was something that she decided long ago and that she didn’t want to make God look at her badly (the way I put that sounds so wrong, as a side note, right before we started dating she let God life into her life, I don’t or I can't, religion is just something I don’t understand…) and that she believed that sex was created so that 2 people can make a baby and that is what God intended it to be. She said that she always looked at her friends in the bad light that they were always having sex but then she learnt that it’s their choice and that it’s their lives and she didn’t want to judge them for it. I asked her if it was because she got raped and she said that no not really but it defiantly made her choice much more easier, she had decided this long ago…

Now I told myself that I wouldn’t leave her for sex, no I would and could not ever leave her for that, I love her too much.