HOW TO ABSTAIN FROM SEX WITH LONG TERM BOYFRIEND

 According to the Teen reporter, In some societies, religions, or simply personal preference, people may choose to abstain from sexual intercourse with their significant other until marriage. If you want to stay sex-free with your boyfriend, take this tutorial.

1. Have a discussion about your reasons for abstinence. Engage your boyfriend in a good give-and-take talk about your ideas concerning the timing for sexual intercourse. Seek his input, but explain where you stand, so there will be no misunderstandings later

2. Be active together. In your free time: hike, bike, swim, walk, exercise, play sports, and so on. Get up and out, working your muscles, to relieve pent-up tensions.

3. Spend time together in public places away from home. Do not study together at home, for instance, but go to the library where you cannot do things in private.

4. Do nonsexual activities. Do things together that are not necessarily sexual, such as giving each other: massages, shampoos, pedicures, and manicures

5. Give your boyfriend positive feedback. Compliment him on his looks, mental prowess, and skills with hobbies or sports, for example. Do no take him for granted. Tell him how much you appreciate him being on the same page as you are as far as sexual intercourse goes.

6. Be loving. You are in a relationship. Even without sexual intercourse, you can show your love for your boyfriend .
7. Meet with other girls. Have group meetings with like-minded girls to reinforce your ideas concerning sexual intercourse, giving each other feedback and a chance to describe strategies.
8. Remind your boyfriend that abstinence is not forever, and there will come a time when you will have sexual intercourse. Talk with him about making plans for that time.

HOW TO ABSTAIN FROM SEX USING THE BIBLICAL SCRIPTURES

How to Abstain from Sex Using Biblical Scriptures 

''No God and keep His word and all with be well with u. Never give up no matter how long it takes , Jesus Keeps His word. Said Sheila AManya  Vision Bearer RASYN-CVM 

Many people act like they will die if they did not have sex. That is such a crazy way of thinking. I have not heard of anyone dying, for not having sex. What many people don't realize when it comes to not having sex, is that it's all in your mind. If you are not constantly thinking about it, it will not be your focus in life. Whatever you spend your time looking at, lusting after, then that will end up being your focus and your downfall. If you are the few individuals, who are waiting to get married before sex, or even what to abstain from sex, here's some biblical scriptures to meditate on.

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My girlfriend wants to abstain from sex

 ''we are not in a relationship because we need sex, we can wait until all is ready for us''. Said Sheila Amanya This story made me so happy

I am a 17 year old guy with a 16 year old girlfriend. As the title says my girlfriend wants to abstain from sex (only have sex when she gets married) and I don’t think, no I know that I will never be able to do that… I have never ever in my life understood why people want to abstain (Not bragging but I am an intelligent person and have looked as to why people abstain and I just don’t agree with them at all…).

We have been dating for 6 months and I have to say that it’s been the best 6 months of my life. I love her, I really do, I kinda believe that I have found my soul mate and I know how much she loves me (don’t know if she thinks that I am her soul mate though…).

When we were dating for about 3 months she told me out of the blue that she didn’t like public displays of affection. I was stunned because we had been kissing (just a peck on the lips) in public for all those 3 months and to find out that this made her uncomfortable I just did not again understand why but I told her that it was fine, no more PDA because I respected her wishes and her believe. Then a while later she told me that she doesn’t want to have sex in High School. This one hit me a lot more than the other one…

I really had to sit and think about this one because let’s be honest this has never been part of my plans. It was a very, very difficult situation this one. I really did think of leaving her… We got into an argument and I learnt that she didn’t actually love me with all her heart because each time she had done that she had gotten her heart shattered and it took her very long to get over it. Now I understood her reasons but the fact that she sad that she didn’t want to get attached to me because she knew that this would end. This didn’t only hurt me, it crushed me, there I was giving a 100% to this relationship only to find out that she had been giving 60%... I really, really thought that this was the end… But then she told me something that she had only told one person in her life, that was her best friend and it had taken her years for her to tell her this, when she was six she was raped. This then made so many things more acceptable, like why she hated public displays of affection and why she didn’t want to have sex in high school. Even though she told me this and I felt extremely sorry for her and what had happened I still wanted to end the relationship… Then she called me and she said that she had been crying for the whole day because she really thought about how life would be without me and she had gotten attached to me, without knowing she let me into her heart and she didn’t want me to leave her… I took her back and overlooked the no sex in high school thing because I mean it was only going to be 2 years and since we are in high school it really didn’t affect me you know.

I also learnt throughout that we were dating that her father was a heavy alcohol abuser and that he cheated on his wife regularly….

Then we hit our 6 month anniversary and she told me how much she loved me and that she has previously believed that it was impossible to not find true love while you were a teen but I was a testament that it was possible. Then 2 days later she hit me with a huge *** slap, “I only want to have sex when I am married”. It kinda didn’t shock me as much actually now that I think about it but now we have been “discussing” this for the whole week now, literally we started this “discussion” on Monday last week.

I told her straight up that I don’t think that I will be able to do this… She gave me her reasons, she said that it was something that she decided long ago and that she didn’t want to make God look at her badly (the way I put that sounds so wrong, as a side note, right before we started dating she let God life into her life, I don’t or I can't, religion is just something I don’t understand…) and that she believed that sex was created so that 2 people can make a baby and that is what God intended it to be. She said that she always looked at her friends in the bad light that they were always having sex but then she learnt that it’s their choice and that it’s their lives and she didn’t want to judge them for it. I asked her if it was because she got raped and she said that no not really but it defiantly made her choice much more easier, she had decided this long ago…

Now I told myself that I wouldn’t leave her for sex, no I would and could not ever leave her for that, I love her too much.

HOW TO ABSTAIN FROM SEX

It Will Be Difficult, but it Can Be Done

RASYN -CVM believes everyone can abstain from sex and other evil, its a choice and a decision, if well made good results are yield in the end. RASYN-CVM  emphasis is to tell and teach the youth to abstain totally  no sex before marriage and with God everything is possible

According to Kimberly Walters

If you have decided to abstain from sex, it can sometimes feel like the world is working against you. It can make dating difficult and your peers may even ridicule you about your decision. This can put more pressure on you and make your task even more difficult. Here are some things that can help you keep to your practice of abstinence.

The important thing is to remember why you chose to abstain from sex in the first place. Whether it was due to your religious beliefs, a moral decision, the fear of sexually transmitted diseases, or a personal decision; there is no reason to allow others to cause you to second guess your decision. If you decide to give up on your abstinence, this should be your decision and it should not be caused by the pressure from those around you.

You can still date and remain abstinent. You should let this person know about your decision while you are in the beginning of the relationship and let them know how long you plan to stick to your abstinence. This is only fair to let them know what they are looking at. Let the decision be theirs on whether they are willing to be in a relationship with someone that has no intentions of being sexually active with them for a specific amount of time. For many people sex is an important part of a relationship and you will want to know where this person stands before either one of you get very emotionally involved.

When you are out on a date you should not get yourself into a physical situation that makes you feel uncomfortable or tempted. If you find that sitting close to your date starts to get to you, put some distance between the two of you. If you have already told this person of your decision then you can simply tell them you feel like you need a little room and they should understand. If you haven't yet told them, make an excuse to sit further away, or go to use the restroom and when you come back, sit a little further from them.

You should not make it any harder on yourself by getting yourself in tempting situations. A date should consist of group dates, or dates in places with other people around, such as; dinner in a restaurant, a movie, a night of dancing, or a friends party. You will want to steer clear of romantic dinners at home where you will be put in the situation of being at home alone with the person.

 Teach your child the reasons why He/ she Should abstain from sex and other evil and all  will be well with them. 

NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE

For RASYN-CVM we are preaching and singing Abstinence as a commitment to staying a virgin until marriage ( to the students who are still virgins) and if you have lost it you can start abstaining and by the grace of God all sins are forgiven if you repent in the name of Jesus.We preach that Youth should abstain totally with out using condoms, NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE is our title. Many think its hard but with GOD ALL IS POSSIBLE. amen and Amen

RADIO PROGRAMS HAVE CAUSED A BIG IMPACT

 
                      RASYN-CVM ON LIFE FM 
 
RASYN-CVM has been on life FM, VOT,AND BETTER FM every Saturday teaching youth about God 's word and Abstinence. Abstinence  is important because it will stop from a person getting a STD or becoming pregnant. Many people are still waiting to have sex until they are in a stable .As members of RASYN-CVM we are waiting until we get the right partners and we depend on the word of God. So far the radio programs have helped so many youth to join the clubs, their parents have been forced to look for  us and bring their children and youth to join. To us this is a great a achievement  and we pray  and know that more youth will be joining  us soon. We believe for more help and support from everyone to support us spiritually , financially and Morally  in Jesus name.

ABSTINENCE IS THE BEST

Abstinence is good because it's the only method that guarantees hundred percent prevention of pregnancy and diseases without using contraceptives and condoms. Abstinence gives one a sense of belonging and sound mind in that the stress of dealing with sexual matters are not an issue or the consequences of engaging in unprotected sexual intercourse.
As RASYN-CVM we believe and know that when we abstain from Sex and other evil, this world will be a different place to stay in. AIDS /HIV will not over spread, stealing will reduce, bad and evil things will reduce and everyone will leave a happy life.

 A person who wishes to choose abstinence will not risk receiving sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Also, an unplanned pregnancy will not result from abstinence .We are happy that we have joined RASYN CVM.  A lot of things have changed in our lives.

RASYN-CVM AGAIN ON LIFE FM

Jesus is the Saviour of the earth , he came to save the sinners that was the topic of the discussion. We believe all that JESUS is the Saviour of the world. His blood saved us all. many callers appreciated the program and requested  the moderator to keep on hosting such programs to change the lives of the children. Great work RASYN-CVM

RASYN-CVM IN RURAL SCHOOLS

WHY RURAL STUDENTS

Rural Primary, Secondary and University students have less access to relevant information about abstinence from sex, excessive alcohol and abusive/addictive drug and other information related to abusive relationships, early marriages and school drop outs.

Many students stay  with their step- parents who  never allow them to take part in any of the ongoing activities that would benefit them like youth seminars ,educative shows and church programs  , some step  parents do not share any important information with their step  children , many step  parents have  forced their step children  to go into early marriages and drop out of schools .

When ever they find their step children  with men or women they congratulate them and give them a go ahead .Also some step parents have been so harsh to their step children and many have resorted into running out of homes and hence early marriages , school drop outs and going into abusive relationships. So this program of abstinence goes ahead to be a voice to the voice less youth rural students and it helps them to know their right and laws

Many Rural students do not have any access to the internet, radios and televisions, many can not participant in any seminar or talk shows many can’t afford the transport fee and their step –parents can not allow them to take any part in the ongoing programs that would help them to get knowledge about HIV/AIDS .

Also most publications are in English languages and many rural students do not fully understand the language of what is published in magazines, new papers, novels and other books. Also many rural youth can not access such publication because they are expensive, and many study from rural schools and live in rural home. Those who get access to news paper only read sports and other information leaving the page that contains any information about HIV/AIDS .So abstinence program guides the rural students on how to read such information that would help them if they get access to the publications. 

Also some rural students are total orphans who only have to work and get money to pay their fees, so they hardly get time to concentrate on finding this information. Since many rural students are orphans, poor and stay with harsh step parents, many tend to forget their stress and problems by dropping out of schools, drinking excessively, going into early marriage, having sex with sugar mummies and daddies and doing a lot of evil because they take life to be meaningless .So abstinence program tries to comfort such people by showing them love, hope, friendship, guidance, courage, strength, information and care in all ways 

Many of the rural students do not know about their right and lack a lot of information as a research we conducted with some rural students ,many think being in a relationship means having sex, getting pregnant and leaving school to go and start a home and a family. So when a rural student goes to a school and finds any student with an expensive bag, he or she tends to do any thing in order to get money to buy such an item.

Many village men have taken advantage of these students and they have ended up affecting them with STDs and many have been lied by the tax drivers ,herdsmen , carpenters and Bike riders that they own the cars, cows, and bikes which is never the true  and after sleeping with them and impregnating them such men disappear and change their contacts .