RASYN-CVM ON VOICE OF TOORO ON 13 .7.2013 TEACHING WHY IS SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE BAD
1. Disappointment: People often think that the passionate illicit sex experienced prior to marriage vows will continue into marriage. Sorry, but life happens! We get tired, bored, uninterested, and we can even experience headaches.
When we settle down in marriage it should be about commitment, friendship, and feeling honored. Our relationship should not be based on sexuality. When the relationship begins with sexual intimacy instead of developing healthy communication, often one spouse can feel disappointed, rejected, and bitter when the sexual intimacy wanes.
Each sexual experience is like a leech that latches on and we never forget. Those experiences can cause comparisons that may lead to disappointment later with our spouse. No reason to test drive your potential partner as we often hear. In a safe, loving relationship developed with honor and respect you should be able to openly share your needs with your loving spouse. And if you need help there are plenty of books and magazines that will offer advice, but wait to read those with your spouse.
2. Disrespect: Often having a sexual relationship in dating can lead to feelings of being used and rejected. Premarital sex is the pursuit of self-gratification at the expense of someone else’s honor. A safe loving sexual relationship is one of the benefits of marriage not of dating.
Never disrespect yourself by giving into a pushy man or woman who demands sex. If you are valued for who you are, not what you do in bed, then he or she will wait until marriage. "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body." (1Corinthians 6:18)
3. Disillusionment: Often sex will cloud our perception. We are unable to see clearly who that person is. We ignore all the character flaws and red flags. Being sexually enmeshed in the relationship prevents us from breaking away from the dating relationship. In marriage those problems become clear, yet they were there all along. We just covered them up by being sexual. Women, save yourself a lot of trouble, keep your eyes open to potential problems, while you keep your panties on.
4. Disease: Over fifty million men and women in the United States are infected with sexually transmitted diseases that can cause severe pain, infertility, cervical cancer, and birth defects to children. Not to mention humiliation when you find someone you want to marry, but have to explain that you have an STD. The Bible says, "What benefit did you reap at that time from the things you are now ashamed of?" (Romans 6:18)
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